there are many vital things in life that can't be forced. like falling in love. and moving on and away from it.
and since a college friend pm'ed me at this time, hours past midnight, to talk about her recent break-up, i'd like to focus on the latter.
some people i talked to believe that moving on must be a conscious effort. that, i agree with. but to say that it should be forced is something i don't deem effective.
i think, when tides turn and situations compel us to part ways with our (then) loved ones, it is better to let love die a natural death. by that, i mean we have to go through the natural process of crying (or wailing, if you are that type of person), then feeling strong and empowered one moment, and feeling weak and entertaining we'll-get-back-together thoughts the next. i think every girl feels that. everyone goes through that crazy shift of emotions and reasons. and we shouldn't be too hard on ourselves to expect that we will be "fully-recovered" in just a few days, or weeks, or months. we, girls, are complicated human beings, and we've got to give ourselves time.
and cliche as it may sound, this too shall pass. every heartache ends. every old flames die.
not unless, it's not what we genuinely want. because love won't die a natural death if we still keep on nurturing it, if we still keep on feeding ourselves with false hopes and blind dreams.
so at the end of the day, it's still our call. we decide.
