short (and bitter) drama.

i am only human.
many of us use that as an excuse for doing or sometimes not doing things. no one can track exactly how overused that line is.

today, i join the mundane crowd who finds nothing else to blame except that truth.


i'm fed up. though majority of the time i think of myself as superwoman, i also come home to the truth that i am only human too.


23. young, ambitious, 23-year old. fed up and very much human. 


my younger siblings, who happen to be my children as well, led me into feeling this way. no, i don't hold them accountable for this ill-emotion that i'm in right now. i know so well it's my response that does the trick. and i chose to respond this way.


so, boo me.


it's just that sometimes it's tiring. most of the time it's overwhelming.


love (and madness)


posted: today. written: 07-24. 11:36 pm. for insomniacs, this is still quite early, but why do i have a feeling that the whole world is sleeping at this time of night except me?

except for the rhythmic snore of my beloved sleeping in the living room, the tinkling sound of the window chimes, and the humming of the electric fan, nothing else sound so clearly except for my bothered mind.

lights off, and i chose to keep it that way. the light from my laptop screen is the only light that keeps me company at this odd hour. i rest lappy on the kitchen table as i begin to pour out all my cluttered thoughts and crazy emotions on a then-blank notepad.


what had just happened?

when i woke up this morning, the only thing i looked forward to was seeing alvin and attending the kerygma feast with him – nothing extraordinary except that today, we celebrate our eight-year anniversary.

well, i take that back. maybe i was expecting for something more, for a bouquet of roses perhaps, a box of chocolate, or a simple token that would remind me that this sunday is unlike all the regular sundays we spend together.

little by little, though, bizarre things began to unfold. first, alvin sent me messages with a minute or so interval asking me where i am. as usual i’m on a bus on my way to megamall where we always meet up. it’s unlikely of him to be that impatient since he knows so well that i send text replies quite late when i'm on a road trip.

when i arrived in megamall, i did not inform him yet that i’m there and i decided to quickly meet my highschool friend, chuckie, whom i had prior arrangement with. i met him in krispy kreme and we were having a little chitchat when alvin entered the scene. surprised, i asked him how he knew we were there. he simply said he was passing by and saw us. of course i didn’t completely buy that idea thinking chuckie might have informed him where we were. but alvin broke my suspicion when he asked for chuckie’s number right there and then. alvin also said he’s suffering with lbm that we had to attend only the mass and skip the inspirational talk part of the k-feast. i told him that we can buy medicine to aid that but he snapped that meds like those don’t have effect on him. i was disheartened to hear that we had to skip the best part of the feast, but seeing him all sweaty and tensed, i conceded. that must really be a bad case of lbm.

after the mass, we walked past by unisilver in megamall. a few steps away from the stall, he told me that we backtrack and check out rings for a while. like a spur of the moment idea, he told me that we better buy a new ring in exchange for the one he gave me years back. after buying one, he got the ring and kept it in his pocket. i wondered why he didn’t give it to me right away but knowing him, i thought maybe he wants to add a little drama when he gives it to me at home.

our next stop was goldilocks. he said we have to buy a cake to complete the celebration. i was rooting for the junior-sized chocolate mousse while he insisted for a large brazo de mercedez. i know he is matakaw, but i didn’t see the point of buying a large one when the only people at home are nanay and ate, and since i’m not a fan of that flavor i am not much of a threat. the disappointment on my face was even obvious that he sensed it so well.


fast forward...
when we were nearing home, i noticed that our gate and door were wide open. i heard our videoke playing and someone singing. i commented it was nanay. goodness of all goodness! there they were, seven of my highschool friends at home, chuckie included, having the time of their life.

there were a lot of food in the table. nanay was busy in the kitchen. as i grabbed food to feed my rumbling stomach, i asked away a lot of questions left and right, trying to make sense of everything. i am not even halfway through eating when alvin got up and took the microphone from the one singing and asked them to sing in chorus, as he started talking.


i think i know what is coming…

it wasn’t exactly a proposal, of course i wouldn't accept a unisilver ring for an engagement ring, though he made it appear like it was a pseudo-proposal, or a mock proposal, or whatever. (alvin wants to refer to it as a despidida party for me of some sort too, hence the crowd.) with trembling voice and sweaty forehead, he addressed his “speech” to nanay, informing her that one, we really are a couple, (i didn’t inform nanay that alvin is my boyfriend again, though i know it has been quite obvious to her), two, that it has been eight years now (which was an even bigger revelation to nanay since she only know the “second time around,” she didn’t know that alvin has, in fact, been my boyfriend back in highschool), and that third, he seriously loves me and he's equally serious that he wants to marry me in the future. i know nanay was bewildered, and i kept assuring her that it was all “char” and told her not to take anything seriously.

as for me, i don’t know exactly how many times i said leche, how loud my screams were and how mean my tone was when i demanded alvin to stop using the microphone (i didn’t want the entire neighbourhood to hear him and his drama). and yes, he reserved the ring for this moment.


for the record, this is the biggest and the most effortful surprise i ever had in my life.

but truth is, it didn’t make me happier. flattered, maybe. awestruck, definitely. but i realized i am not a fan of surprises, of big grand surprises at that.

yes, alvin was oh-so-awesomely-amazing. i give A for effort (the plan was made, i learned, weeks ahead). i'm impressed at how good they kept it secret from me. nanay was even an accomplice (but she admitted she didn't know alvin will give such speech). i was glad to see my friends, but i thought i can see them at another time. i thought i can very well organize a get-together when i want one.


i still and will always delight in simple things. for a special day such as anniversary, my idea was to spend it in as much personal and quiet way as possible. sweet and simple.
no fuss, no grand speeches, no sweat. just me, alvin and pure love.

love (again)

i feel compelled to write just another post about love.


i blame it to the moon, the stars, the love bug, to alvin, to anyone or anything other than myself. what i'm trying to say is that i think this is something beyond me and my control.

tomorrow, we'll celebrate the eight-long-twisted years since we started to give that flicker of teenage love a try. i guess that's the beauty of finding a love lost. we don't go back to zero. we don't go through an awkward stage. we simply pick up and glide by where we left off.

today, there are so much yesterday thoughts, emotions and experiences rushing back in, good and bad, sane and insane.

the kisses.
the tears.
the cuddles.
the fights.
the words.
the gestures.
the plans.
the dreams.
the love.
the hate.

all these make our love authentic. exquisite. grand.

and despite and in spite of everything, here we are again.

better individuals.
changed.
grown.
driven.
defied the odds.

...and more in'love than we ever were.


i remember tets' funny remark:
eeeeeeh gaze in love with alvin again. wow. even madame auring couldn't have predicted that.

me neither. maybe just like gravity, love is too strong to resist. it's all powerful, all consuming.

nevertheless, i take back all the blame i said at the beginning of this post. i stop blaming everything and anyone else.

in all sanity and consciousness, i took the plunge to the love i know so well, to the only love i've ever known in this lifetime.

rain.

what i want to happen: i'll walk in the rain on my way home.
what actually happened: i ran in the rain on my way to my tutorial.



so i showed up wet, dripping and freezing to my students.


i have several options to prevent this from happening. one, i could have waited for the rain to stop before i go on walking. two, i could have hailed a cab since i was stranded in a place just a few meters away from the condo, which means i wouldn't have to spend so much for taxi being an anti-taxi person that i am. third, i could have asked for a favor from a passerby to spare me a little space under his/her umbrella. i could have done any of these except that one, i don't want to be late for my class, two, i didn't bring spare cash for cab fare, and third, i'm too proud to ask for a favor from a stranger on a strange night.

intentionally, i left my umbrella at home thinking i would love to walk in the rain on my way home any night this week. i forgot to take into consideration this other walk i take everyday--the 12-minute brisk walk from megamall to my students' condo unit.


so yes, this is a semi-planned occurrence.


..and i still wish to walk in the rain on my way home anytime soon ;)

love. (what else.)

8 years.

i fell in love for the first time 8 years ago.
who would have thought i'll fall in love again 8 years after.

and who would have thought that he'll be the same man.


ours wasn't a steady love affair. though eight-year term was awesome, it was an on-and-off thing.

when we separated ways almost two years ago, i vowed to myself never to fall for him again. i promised it will be for good. i had all the share of heartaches i needed. i learned all i needed to learn. i've grown and matured into a strong woman that i am now. i was doing okay, and not long after that, i was healed and emotionally whole again. i started welcoming the possibility of having a brandnew lover. someone completely new, someone who'll love me and i'll love back truly, madly, deeply.


..only to find myself comparing, wondering why i'm not feeling the way i felt for him.


i waited patiently, and sometimes impatiently, for the right love to come. only to realize that the right love i'm desperately looking for is the love i lost long before.


so this is for alvin ray joseph amacio, the love i found, lost, and found once more.
for the man i happily fall in-out-and-in love with again.
how many people are ever given that chance? To have someone you fall in love with over and over again?



and i realized, no matter how hard you try to escape and get away from that one great love, it will always pull you in...

...just like how i was pulled back in.

updates.

there have been a lot of "going's-on" recently. 


most recently, and by that i mean just 41 minutes ago, i changed my relationship status on facebook. the request has been sent a month or so ago, and believe you me, i started contemplating on that matter since. whether to click "confirm," leave it hanging there, or ignore it completely.


and so we had a deal. he did his part, i had to do mine. but more than that i think what influenced me the most was timmy's FB status for today:


‎"At the end of it all, we have friends who'll get drunk and wild with us, who'll make us realize how stupid we were, who'll make us laugh about the things we cried about, and who'll still love us for always doing what we think is right and love--and that includes loving people who they think we don't deserve..." That is why I have a lot of other reasons to smile and be happy... ^^"



i ain't a celebrity or something, but i know right after the update is being broadcast to newsfeed, friends will have their reactions, violent or otherwise. some friends may approve, others will disapprove, but i wouldn't and couldn't love them any less because of that. 


it's not as if i'm getting married or anything, so i stop all the fuss right here. :)          
                                                                                                                 
quite recently too, yesterday particularly, i finally went to the job interview for singapore gig. the night before, things are starting to dawn on me, and i felt a heavy sinking feeling. for several minutes i let the lonesomeness rush in and i let myself sob a little. i'm leaving for real. i'm about to start a new life somewhere out there, without the comfort of family and friends i know so well. 


i know i'm starting the drama way too early since i still have a month, and maybe a couple of weeks of stay. it's just that i guess, the fact that i'm leaving for two years is a bit overwhelming for me. 


2 years. yet, before we notice it, it's spent and gone.