best friendships

admittedly, for the past weeks, or months even, my life and insights seemed to revolve mostly on love. alvin is the name that established permanence on my facebook wall and in my recent blog posts, so there is no way i can deny how madly in-love i am. he may be the reason why i'm extra flowery than i already am, the reason why my heart flutters frantically. but this is not to say that he is the sole special person and reason why i'm flowery and why my heart is fluttery.

like a scoop of ice cream, a lover makes life sweet, but there are still extra scoops that make life even sweeter. extra scoops called bestriend.

i believe "best friendship" is a necessity. but though it is, i can still imagine life without it. it's a life less memorable, less eventful, less fun.

so lucky are we to find one bestfriend -- the one among the many who stood out, whose friendship is extraordinary, whom you can completely be yourself, without fearing even for one second that you're going to be judged. and most likely, we're okay with just one.

many times i wonder who, then, is the bestfriend that makes me one lucky person. and many times i feel doubly blessed whenever i try to answer that question. it still surprises me to realize that i don't only have one, or two, but 18 (authentic) bestfriends in this planet.

they are my bestfriends not because ours is a smooth-sailing-argument-free-perfect friendships. at certain points, we actually lost touch. each one of them, no exception. at this time and age when text is cheap and facebook is accessible, there were still times when communication became less frequent, until it stopped altogether. we lost touch and stopped seeing each other because we no longer share the same neighborhood, the same school, or the same work environment. more than that, growing up into mature individuals, we've been busy fighting our own battles, making our own mistakes, learning our own lessons, chasing our own dreams, and minding our own business. in all these life hustles and bustles, we drifted apart and away.

in ordinary friendships, we simply lose the magic and we fail to find the way back to each other again. that is one of the many facts of life, people come and go, and we all should deal with it without fretting.

but not with extraordinary friendship. we actually don't lose the connection. we need not to fret because somewhere along the way, we will bump into familiar people who will be back and will stick around for good, and we'll find out that we share and care about each other's battles, mistakes, lessons, dreams and business after all.

so i'm more than lucky to enjoy best friendships with these wonderful people. these are the people who made me feel well-loved even when i am not lovable, who made me feel well-cared for even when i am not caring, who remained to be patient even when i am stubborn.

jona - my walking diary and the best listener, ever.

aishel - we went to huge places together: up, convergys. and i'm glad she was there to provide a familiar comforting presence when all these places were then-scary and unknown.

jhoanna, mae, dianne - they proved to me that a year of shared time is enough to sustain a good and lasting friendship. when i went back, it was as if i never left.

timmy - she pushes me to reason and logic when i don't make sense (and she pushed me to love when i was hesitant and doubting).

may-may, jezza, heidz, leslie, daryn - pbi has been a home to me because of them. they were my support and back-up, and the reasons why high school life was fun.

rejie - his thoughtfulness never wavered even when we are miles and oceans apart. birthday, christmas, new year, not once did he fail to extend a special-occasion greeting.

juriz - reliable, dependable and ever-present. one "hey" and he's rarin' to go wherever and whenever.

ruth - one wouldn't wait a minute to get a text reply from her. (isn't that one of life's simple pleasures, when someone texts you back instantly?) plus she gives good massage too! :)

ruffa - the sweet and maldita friend (a rare combination that i enjoy so much).

joyce - out of the many things we share, faith is my favorite. and her generosity is exceptional, promise!

jac - the encourager. she never runs out of words of encouragement (and i sometimes wonder where she gets all of them).

tets - stalk'ish type of friend, (the type i love so much). we have the same peculiar beliefs, same tall dreams, same unbelievable love for long walks, etcera, etcetera. with so many similarities, i see myself in her, except that she's prettier. (haha)


i know, the one-liners didn't actually capture their worth and the significance they play in my life. their value, simply, are beyond words.


and why am i this mushy at this time of...past-midnight?

well, maybe because i'm thinking of my looming departure and i'm thinking of the people whose company i'll miss the most. :'(